Reading all these articles about you from our friends, I often find my eyes in tears…Oh those sweet memories we shared… It hurts so much to know that memories are the only thing I’ve got now.
But all my memories about you are full of laughter. If I have to write something about you, I don’t want to do it in tears. That’s why I waited awhile for the shock and sorrow to fade a bit…
We met in Edinburgh, Sep. 2008. With your cheerful laughter and quick response in the discussions in class, it’s really hard not to notice you. However, we didn’t become close until the end of the first term, when I finally registered on facebook to be well-informed of the after-class events—potluck, clubbing, party! Going through all my photo files and my two diaries, I can’t believe within only one year we had so many awesome interesting events together.
The first party I get to know you better is the dinner at Janet’s flat. I was late but you warmly greeted me when Janet was busy in the kitchen. With you I was able to join the talking with others—You always know how to start a conversation with people of different nationalities and personalities. You break the ice and make the parties alive with your witty words and funny ideas or games. No matter how many people in the party, you’re the guarantee of a fun time!
I remember half of our class crowded in your kitchen for the TESOL potlucks, sharing self-made dishes and laughing the roof off.
I can’t forget the intimacy we girls shared in the cocktail party at Jess’s place,
the Greek dancing in Maria’s Nameday Party,
the celebration of Ruth’s birthday at washbar (we were all dressed up!),
the crazy drinking-till-drunk night at MiJeong goodbye party (You bought me 5 Jagerbombs and I was drunk for the first time in my life),
and the girls' fun time in Christ's indian kitchen.
You are the “play hard, work hard” type of person. I learn that not only from your active engagement in class, but also the experience of working with you for our presentation in Text & Discourse class in the second term.
I also remember the visit to Forrester Hight School with you and Ruth on a cold winter day. I felt so lucky to have you two as company that even the walk on the icy slippery road to the school is somehow fun and special.
With you I also experienced more about Edinburgh. We went for the first soccer game in my life. In cold spring we went for a short walk along the canal in Den village.
We BBQ on the school meadow in the rare summer heat of Scotland. We even went for the musical Blood Brother in Edinburgh downtown.
But what I remember most is the visits to Rosemary’s farm with you! When our professor Rosemary invited the class over to her farm, you helped drive 10 classmates there.
I’m not sure if I was in your car, but I remember after the other classmates left we and Leah stayed overnight, and helped with the farm works together the next day: feeding the farm animals (horses, sheep, and highland cows), doing the shearing work, and cooking dinner together.
I love the moments with you in the pasture, at the dinner table, and by the warm fireplace. That’s why I keep asking you to take me to Rosemary’s farm, and you did accompany me there five times!!
The farm life is the most cherished experience I had with you.
Seeing you with camera all the time in our gatherings, I asked you to photo shoot me and Caster in wedding dress/suit on the Edinburgh streets, as a memento of Caster’s proposal on Arthur Seat.
I was thrilled when you said yes, but a bit worried as the appointed date in August approached— With the deadline of the dissertation also approaching, I was afraid to bother you, TY, and Leah too much. But you showed up, and you were so involved in the photo shooting. You came up with great ideas to pose, and made our photos one of the kind.
That whole day, from 5 AM to 10 PM, was the happiest day in my Edinburgh year. I can never thank you enough for such unique photos.
Looking back at the Edinburgh year, I realize that you are there with me at most of the impressive moments. After graduation though we’re distantly separated apart, you managed to visit me twice—You made it to my wedding day in 2010!
And when my first baby Ching-Lan was born in 2012, you came by to congratulate me in person!
I thought we would have more reunions later since I have summer vacation every year. I could always visit you in Malaysia one day and our children would play together… My heart aches at the thought that it will never come true…
Life is short. I’m so fortunate to share some of the best moments with you. Thank you for enriching my life and making it more colorful. I miss you JC. You are always on my mind.